My big “aha” moment !

Imagine living your whole life with the feeling that something may be terribly wrong with you because no one stands by you when you need them to..You are convinced about it because one experience after another had taught you the same thing.. ‘You stand alone’.

 It is but natural that bitterness and self doubt would creep in and injure your confidence.. But what if someone were to tell you that you don’t stand alone because you are not loved, BUT because people around you have no capacity to support the magnitude of the strength you exude. They cannot stand by you because they themselves depend on you to stand up for them..   Your whole life could turn around in that one instant.. Time would stand still and relief would wash over you.. Like the Gods themselves validate that you are a good person after all !!!    AHA  MOMENT !!!!

Everyone has these moments  that they live for, moments they seek, moments that drive them. They could be seconds  of fame, of love, sinful pleasures, achievement, revenge… you name it.. Our life is in these moments which may be very few and far in between. 

Like small lethal packets, these precious flashes  of deep understanding, too could contain the greatest joys, the confrontation with success and the biggest lessons ever learnt. Oprah calls it the “aha” moment, when something new dawns in your mind and changes the way you think and act. Forever !

  For  most people struggling with an unhealthy body image, the next two lines could be euphoria.. 

 “If I  didnt know better , I’d say I was thin. However  the fact is that I’m not thin. But here is my new found reality: you don’t have to be thin to look good !” -  Lisa Kogan ( writer)

My  aha moment made it so much simpler for me to take decisions without guilt and trauma.. I live by this mantra now..“ If you make a choice that goes against what everyone else thinks, the world doesn’t fall apart”

I walk through each day not, seeking more moments like these, which would make my life lighter and light  up.. Its one more reason I look forward to the beauty of everyday.. the exposure to new experiences..new encounters with varied people..

let me learn about your “aha” moment.. I am waiting to get inspired by it.

 Love,

Kavyal

Life is calling ..Listen !

Each  one of us is called upon, probably many times, to start a new life.. A marriage, loss of job, a frightening diagnosis, moving houses.. I know for sure that anyone who is reading this knows what it feels like because they have been through it..  It can be nerve wrecking to say the least !

 Whatever  our  official addresses may be, whether posh or in smaller localities, it  does not hold much importance, because after all we only live in the ultra luxurious world of our own little comfort zone ! The same friends that we’ve had since school or college, the same lucky charms that we’ve been over with a million times, the same therapy of home cooked food when we’re tired and the same dollops of chocolate or icecream when we’re upset..

We do complain several times about life being mundane, boring, not exciting enough, about us being ‘not  as lucky as  the dumb-but-rich neighbours  next door ‘..Lets face it, I don’t know anyone who doesn’t do it.. But I know not more than a couple of people who actually take action to change something about their status..

 We cant complain that we’ve had no opportunity, that would be  blasphemy ! that would be the biggest lie in the world.. May be you chose to look away or retire in your comfort zone when opportunity knocked..thats quite possible.. “Who wants to take a risk at this stage? It’s not worth  it ! what if it doesn’t go well..Its better to be content with what we have”. There is nothing wrong with this approach.. infact I solicit it, I advise it, I use it myself, because I have a fear for the unknown, I AM SCARED OF RISKS !    There… I said it !  But as I say it, I am also responsible enough to not blame life for being mundane and dull and boring..

 I have realized that my ordinary actions will never give me the extra ordinary results I dream of. I accept that. I know that when I am ready to change my status from ‘ Comfertable’ to  ‘fire in my belly’ , I will  be a possibility of success.. I know that I will be willing to take that onward full tilt and will be resolute about making it on a good shore.

 I have already started taking baby steps towards conquering certain blindfolds and mental blocks I hold within me..I have started to face my fear and take the bull by the horns.. I am working on it and I am very surprisingly, enjoying my discovery ! I know you will too.. give yourself that chance to play DARE !

Till then,  I am hopeful and embrace one possibility after another. Time to take this life for  what it is !!