I dont know what it is with the madness, the crazy crazy jokes that have been doing the rounds of millions of cell phones since the uber expensive Robot released.. What is this fascination with Rajnikant ?? I agree that his style of flipping the cigerette and lighting it in a strange manner is amusing, and so is his accent, but i refuse to understand the jokes... I once got this one " My fone is full of Rajnikant jokes.............. and now..........i dont need a charger!". Sure that was smart...if only Rajnikant could save electricity by posting his pictures on circuit boards, that would be awesome !
anyways, this is really not so much about Rajnikant..but i cant seem to get his slogan out of my head "Mind it!"
I have a similar slogan for my life too "Mend it!"
Recently i have been doing a lot of introspection (ok, to be frank, my husband has been doing more of it for me !) I seem to have this constant urge to fix things, fix problems, fix people, fix relationships, fix confusions....and nothing in the world explains it to me..why ??? why would i want to be mother india ? everyone has their own mom, their own best friend, their own guide, their own bottles of alcohol.... then why do i bother?
Most of the times i feel like i can help, i know i will make a difference there, i just want to be of assistance, of some service, do my good deed for the day, spread the cheer, bring the smile types... I dont know if people really appreciate that on face value, i wonder sometimes if people get sick of me because i can really get on their backs to fix their own problem ! Its almost as if their problem causes me more discomfort than it does to the owner.
For friends and family who have experienced this "mend it" streak of me, i know you have been bearing with me for a long time and i really appreciate ur patience, but i dont know if im ever going to stop ! I promise myself everyday that "Dats it !.. no more advising, no more suggesting, no more preaching.. I will mind my own business and let everyone be",
by afternoon, i have already broken that resolution with someone who has a puppy face or a whiny sound.. hopeless me !
and while i write this, i wonder whether everything that people discuss with me is actually a problem ( even though it may sound like one to me )
for eg:
Mother daughter quarrel in another house...(According to me...problem)
Irresponsible teenagers.....(problem)
A couple getting divorced...(problem with a capital P)
Lack of romance in a friend's life....(definate problem)
A friend is'nt married.....(according to me - BIIiG problem)
A feud in a relatives family...(problem)
A friend's baby suffering from stomach ache....(problem)
I am not a doctor, i am not a priest, I am definately not a marriage councellor, neither am i an astrologer..... But i am "Mend it Kavyal", so by the virtue of my name and tag line, i still go ahead to 'Fix' these and more..
Recently i realised that i go overboard when i met a really nice guy and realised that he was on the verge of a divorce...I knew i couldnt help him there since i had met him 2 mins ago, but i could save his future.. so what do i do ? I start looking through my list of spinster girlfriends and wonder if anyone could be a perfect match for this to-be-suitor ! Without exaggerations, i didnt even know his last name, but i had the faith that i could 'mend it'..
I have to admit that the need to solve is more my need than anyone else's. It gives me tremendous satisfactiion when i have been able to be of some help. makes me feel on the top of the world, like today's day was so worth it..I know that i need to fix people more than people need me to fix things (..ok..m a little confused now )
Being the daddy's little girl that i am, i generally refer to something that dad may have taught me in the past.. he told me once " never try to fix the little crummy problems that people have in their lives, even though they may seem like you can do something about them in a second... those little problems give them something to talk about, give them something to think about and worry about..its a joy to sulk about those little things..if u erase those problems from the root, you take away their joy of cribbing about it"
maybe he is right..I should just let everyone be with their own issues...maybe that is their fodder for entertainment, for sympathy, for socialization.. AHA !! May be the things that seem like problems to me, are not problems to them at all !!! eg: Not being married could also be a blessing , right ?
I dont need to prove my mettle by becoming the master problem solver or saviour in miseries..dont get me wrong, i dont intend to leave my friends alone or be indifferent to their life or their issues..people who are around me know that i will always be there when they need me, but i want to give them a chance to really NEED me first !
Finally, to not offend Rajnikant, let me tell you, that no one can be a better problem solver than the master himself.
You know why Obama came to India.. just to request Indian government, "hamari puri military, airforce, technoloogy aap le lo....bas hame Rajnikanth dedo".
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