Last night I caught hold of my 3 year old rascal and threatened him into telling me why he loves me....
my words exactly " bol tane mama kem game, nai to hu tane nai chhodu" ( tell me why you love mama or else i wont let you go") . His reply " kaanke kaanke atle" ( because because thats why). So cleverly he escaped giving me 2 words of praise, which would have made my day, i would have probably even noted them down in my memory diary..
I think its a very mens thing, not being able to express the love they feel..i wonder what they think.."it may make them look weaker, or its a girls thing, or its just not macho enough" god knows what.. i can never decipher a mans mind..so i dont even try, but it definately intregues me and i want to push them, shake them and find the answer to one simple question.. " why dont u guys remember to compliment, to tell someone u like them , to remind someone that you love them ?"
My husband and I are into this daily routine, for the past 9 years now, I remind him everyday that he has forgotten to compliment me on how nice I look today ! and each time he has the same crooked smile in response which says " dont u ever give up ?"... well, my response " No, we dont give up ! why should i not get that compliment when i run on the treadmill like a maniac just so that i am in the best shape for my husband ..and husband dear wont even notice... His reaction to my weight loss " get a blood check done"
As women, (i speak for all my girl friends) we mostly want just one thing, or may be a couple of things...Love, appreciation, lots of money and a life of luxury.. i dont know in which order it goes, but Love is essential, for our survival... for our smiles to stay intact, The compliments we get from you ( husbands, boyfriends, men in general) are just absolutely necessary for the gossip that we need to churn out to make other girlfriends jealous !
And whats with the classic " I am scared, i dont know what she will think..I dont want to lose her as a friend" Buck up !! She may love you secretly for the rest of her life for validating her and thinking she was good enough to love ! How you take it forward completely depends on you, but i can be sure, a woman will never NOT feel on the top of the world knowing that someone loves her !
I get jealous sometimes of the new romances that crop up in front of me.. of new couples coming together, of people getting engaged and that feeling of euphoria !!
Its been 9 years that i've been married now and i'm into that zone where I'm so comfertable with darshan, that seeing him home makes me relaxed and sleepy, like a child would feel in the company of her faithful teddybear.. But its hardly a feeling of euphoria ! I want that feeling too.. which would keep me awake in the night instead of sleepy in the day ! So i tell my husband " do something that will make me feel like we are still a new couple" I get his crooked smile in response again... God ! i am almost settled with my O.R (old romance ), but would i give my right arm for some new excitement and passion with the same old humble husband ? You bet !!
But even after this blog, i know what i'm going to get.. my old crooked smile, which i completely cherish by the way :) Sure , new romances are very exciting , but maybe not as comfertable as the old ones, like the one that i have.. I am going to try and pacify myself by thinking that maybe after 2 kids, a good nights sleep will do me more good than the restlessness and keeping awake !
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