Women : open your eyes and see the love

My last blog was all about a little bit of husband bashing.. i kind of thought that if i put up one of my regular complaints in front of the world, my husband wouldwake up and take notice .. and guess what !! HE DID ! Poor thing walked around the house the whole day with a puppy face wondering what he wasent getting right ...

There was an AHA moment for me in his sullen expression.. While i was just pulling his leg, my husband was really busy wondering whether my complaint was a serious one and how he could change a few things and make himself a better husband.. It was then that i realised just how much he tries every single day to make me and keep me happy..After 9 years of our "old romance", my husband had'nt forgotten any of the promises he made to me. But i didnt remember to pay attention to his contribution in our relationship...

As women, we are loud, expressive, bold, demanding (all of it in a good way) most of the times.. The men are more subdued, preoccupied,possessive,protective, they think of different things from us..They are different in front of the world and completely somebody else for their wives.. Thats a good thing. Atleast we know who they really are.
As those loud women, we may blabber a lot of 'I love you's' and then be so preoccupied with the thousand chores that we may not hear the silent response which simply says "More".
We write the many love letters and wait for the 'never to be received responses' and feel heartbroken.. But rarely will a husband respond with the written word.. Their responses are in the form of their presence..In their just being there when u r breaking down..in their watching your back when ur taking a risk, in their joy while u succeed...or even in their silence when we dont stop nagging !

As i count the blessings of my life, after my kids, my husband tops the list... In his silence and chosen few words is the gift of consideration and respect for me.. His wise eyes are always watching out for where i am going, not because of possessiveness, but to make sure the road is clear and safe for me to step out. His warm embrace, the same that it was 9 years ago, still will hold me with lesser passion but more warmth and acceptance. When the kids sleep between us (because i want them too), he will spend the night not just admiring them, but loving me too like his third child.

Yes, he doesnt respond to love letters, neither does he take me out for 3 holidays a year, i dont get gifted diamonds and secret dates, but i live with the gift of an extremely understanding, loving and faithful husband each day of my life.. and that is a constant !!! And there can be no better gift than that..
I guess, the women like me will just have to wake up and smell the love in the coffee that u share together like an old couple...one peaceful day after the other !