I've never taken pride in my sense of judgement,whether it is judgement of roads or measurements or situations..Infact i almost have a knack of making the wrong judgements everytime..no surprise then that i dont drive ! My friends think it weird that i am so scared of getting behind the wheel, considering that i am a control freak !! (or atleast they think i am !)
The most difficult one out of all judgements, ironically seems to be the easiest one... judging people ! Everyone judges everyone..without an exception.. Its a scary thing but i guess we are all born to impress, arent we ? I should know, i teach grooming for the sole reason that u r prepared to be judged .
Technically i am more sound now, knowing how to read body language and all, but i still am not a pro at relying on the first impressions my mind makes. Why would we say then, that first impressions are the last impressions ??
I learnt a few days ago that our mind is such an egoistic being, it wants us to be right all the time..so if we have judged someone in the first few seconds of interaction as 'lazy' or ' dumb', our mind will focus only on those incidents which prove those negative qualities in that person.. We may almost negate or ignore the part where he / she is doing well or working hard.. but will definately stress on the incident when they left work early or couldnt creatively participate in a meeting.."see, i told you she was good for nothing..i knew it !"
The more i learn, the more i realise that my first impressions fail me,, almost always..In due course of time I always end up liking the person i disliked in the first meeting.. If there was someone who i thought i could trust with eyes closed, they have hurt me in the worst possible manner.. and i wonder, why i cannot judge people correctly !
First impressions are important yes, because if your packaging is good, people are more interested in knowing you better..u get a better chance of being accepted and liked. But first impressions = last impressions ? I really dont think so !
I've just made it a policy to give people more time to prove themselves, to give them more chances to open up. That way i also give my mind more time to make, or rather try to make a sensible impression about people or situations.
whats the hurry anyways ? Also,I had read somewhere "either you can judge people or you can love them" Since i am pathetic at the judging bit, i'll just choose the latter..makes my life easier !
Till the next wrong judgement, life is good ! :)
The most difficult one out of all judgements, ironically seems to be the easiest one... judging people ! Everyone judges everyone..without an exception.. Its a scary thing but i guess we are all born to impress, arent we ? I should know, i teach grooming for the sole reason that u r prepared to be judged .
Technically i am more sound now, knowing how to read body language and all, but i still am not a pro at relying on the first impressions my mind makes. Why would we say then, that first impressions are the last impressions ??
I learnt a few days ago that our mind is such an egoistic being, it wants us to be right all the time..so if we have judged someone in the first few seconds of interaction as 'lazy' or ' dumb', our mind will focus only on those incidents which prove those negative qualities in that person.. We may almost negate or ignore the part where he / she is doing well or working hard.. but will definately stress on the incident when they left work early or couldnt creatively participate in a meeting.."see, i told you she was good for nothing..i knew it !"
The more i learn, the more i realise that my first impressions fail me,, almost always..In due course of time I always end up liking the person i disliked in the first meeting.. If there was someone who i thought i could trust with eyes closed, they have hurt me in the worst possible manner.. and i wonder, why i cannot judge people correctly !
First impressions are important yes, because if your packaging is good, people are more interested in knowing you better..u get a better chance of being accepted and liked. But first impressions = last impressions ? I really dont think so !
I've just made it a policy to give people more time to prove themselves, to give them more chances to open up. That way i also give my mind more time to make, or rather try to make a sensible impression about people or situations.
whats the hurry anyways ? Also,I had read somewhere "either you can judge people or you can love them" Since i am pathetic at the judging bit, i'll just choose the latter..makes my life easier !
Till the next wrong judgement, life is good ! :)
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