Looks like i’m getting old ! I’ve started to sound like the cynical aunties i would come across earlier.. My views on valentines day have started matching their “resigned – for – life” opinions on romance.
“Its just a way to make money for the greeting card companies, thats why they promote it so much”, was what someone had told me when i was 20. I was furious and told myself that she definitely lacks love in her life, hence doesn’t understand the value of this day ! 9 years after that day, I’m thinking, maybe she was right after all... I cant understand all the fuss.. the mush in the air overshadows the pollution for a day, boyfriends spend more than they can afford, the restaurants laugh their way to the bank and you cant even think of stepping into a gift shop today !
The political parties get a chance at free publicity by trying to violently reject a concept that was brought in by the Europeans....its not ‘swadeshi’ they say !!
Every signal on the road is filled with autorikshaws riding down with young couples who cant stop kissing ! the police make a quick buck at lonely spots charging fines to couples who may be cozying up and expressing their love to each other ! sounds like an expensive day, this !
I’m sure I sound like an old complaining hag..but i don’t care.. i am just proved wrong after all these years by that wise old lady.. I can now feel where she was coming from.. her ideas didn’t come from the lack of love, but from the genuine fullness and richness of love in her every day !
Marriage- a good marriage, teaches you that love is a ‘verb’, its a ‘doing thing’, not something reserved to be expressed only 1 day out of the 365.. love, is being there- ready and available when you are needed, it is in the knowing and doing what makes your partner comfortable and happy. It is the quiet understanding and faith that you will love each other even when you put on weight and get grey...love is not time bound.. it cant be..it doesn’t even have a price tag on it and no one can wrong you for it either, not the police, nor the politicians..Love is simply the first smile of the day when you wake up happy- sleeping next to the one you love, grateful for have making the right decisions in life which were not based on lust, but a comforting feeling that “yes- this man will be good to me”
I have nothing against valentines day, i will enjoy all the fuss that even I will be a part of to some extent.. but its not an extra ordinary day.. or then maybe, everyday is extraordinary for people who understand and experience true love !
happy valentines J
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